BONUS: Why Software Projects Fail When Everyone Keeps Quiet

Software projects rarely fail because no one noticed the problem. More often, people see the missing database, the wrong assumptions, the broken process, or the weak product ownership, but the organization has trained them to stay quiet. In this BONUS episode, Mark Stringer, author of Delivering the Impossible, helps us understand how Scrum Masters can make reality visible again.

The Problem Of Intention In Software Projects

“You’ve got here a problem of intention, and you can’t fix that by coming up with new, more magical marks on the page.”

Mark starts with a story from the mid-1990s, before Agile was a common word in software teams. In a software development course, he heard the familiar promise: if only requirements could be captured with the right notation, the project would go correctly. His reaction was different. Software is not only a problem of documentation or process, it is a problem of translating intent into reality. That gap between marks on a page and what people actually need is where many projects begin to drift.

Point Of View Can Make Smart People Miss Reality

“If we see things in the wrong way, then point of view can take 80 IQ points off us.”

Mark uses Alan Kay’s idea that point of view is worth 80 IQ points to explain why good people can still make poor project decisions. A methodology can help, but only if it helps the team see what is actually happening. When the model becomes more important than reality, teams start defending the plan instead of learning from the system they are trying to change. Scrum Masters can help by asking what the current point of view hides, not only what it explains.

The Swamp: Why Project Complexity Is Not On The Diagram

“The fastest way between two points in a real organization is not necessarily a straight line.”

In one banking project, Mark found two realities that had not survived the diagrams. First, a transaction database shown on every architecture diagram did not exist. Second, after six months of requirements work and several million pounds spent, a simple show and tell revealed that the design was organized around accounts when stakeholders needed it organized around people. The point was not that the team had failed to write enough requirements. The point was that the real environment was a swamp of legacy systems, power shifts, competing groups, regulations, users, and assumptions. You only discover that swamp by starting, showing real work, and letting stakeholders react.

Agreed Activity: When The Rituals Keep Going But The Project Is Already Lost

“Everybody knows why the project’s failing. It’s not a mystery at all.”

Mark calls one common failure mode “agreed activity.” The team keeps attending standups, planning meetings, status reviews, and retrospectives, even when people privately know the project is not going anywhere. Often they have tried to raise the real issue before and were punished for it. After that, silence becomes rational. The organization keeps reporting activity, expenditure, and compliance with the process, while the real blockers stay untouched. For Scrum Masters, this is a warning: ceremonies are useful only when they let reality enter the conversation.

Product Ownership, Bad News, And The Message Leaders Send

“The message that the development team hears is: don’t rock the boat, just keep taking the money.”

The Product Owner role can help break agreed activity, but only if the person has enough authority to make decisions and enough proximity to the team to learn. Mark describes two common anti-patterns: appointing someone junior who can be pushed around, or appointing someone so senior they have no time for the work. Worse, when someone points out a fundamental problem and gets metaphorically shot, the team learns the real rule: stay quiet. Leaders may think they are asking for positivity or commitment, but the team hears permission to cut corners, hide bad news, and treat spending as progress.

Make Scrum A Hypothesis Testing Framework Again

“That kind of unexpected feedback, that’s the hope. That’s the machine working.”

Mark’s practical advice is to keep the cadence, but make the meetings real. A show and tell should expose assumptions. A retrospective should make uncomfortable feedback usable. Scrum works best when it is treated as an empirical, hypothesis-testing framework, not a list of meetings to implement. Mark also points to user research as a way to extend learning back into the environment. Teams cannot guess how users will react, which buttons they will press, what they will ignore, or what market and organizational changes are shaping the work. They have to test, learn, and adjust.

About Mark Stringer

Mark StringerMark Stringer is the author of Delivering the Impossible, a 2026 Apress book on better ways of seeing software project management. He has spent 30 years in software delivery as a developer, application researcher, and project manager, working with IBM, Xerox, and Cambridge University.

You can link with Mark Stringer on LinkedIn and follow Mark’s writing at markstringer.github.io. You can find Delivering the Impossible on Amazon and Springer.

5th September 2026 at 10:05 CET
BONUS Why Software Projects Fail When Everyone Keeps Quiet With Mark Stringer

BONUS: Nesrine Changuel shares how to create product delight through emotional connection!

Product Delight Book – By Nesrine Changuel

In this BONUS episode we explore the book by Nesrine Changuel: ‘Product Delight – How to make your product stand out with emotional connection.‘ In this conversation, we explore Nesrine’s journey from research to product management, share lessons from her experiences at Google, Spotify, and Microsoft, and unpack the key strategies for building emotionally resonant products that connect with users beyond mere functionality.

The Genesis of Product Delight

“I quickly realized that there is something that is quite intense while building Skype… it’s not just that communication tool, but it was iconic, with its blue, with ringtones, with emojis. So it was clear that it’s not just for making calls, but also to make you feel connected, relaxed, and part of it.”

Nesrine’s journey into product delight began during her transition from research to product management at Skype. Working on products at major companies like Skype, Spotify, and Google Meet, she discovered that successful products don’t just function well—they create emotional connections. Her role as “Delight PM” at Google Meet during the pandemic crystallized her understanding that products must address both functional and emotional user needs to truly stand out in the market.

Understanding Customer Delight in Practice

“The delight is about creating two dimensions and combining these two dimensions altogether, it’s about creating products that function well, but also that help with the emotional connection.”

Customer delight manifests when products exceed expectations and anticipate user needs. Nesrine explains that delight combines surprise and joy—creating positive surprises that go beyond basic functionality. She illustrates this with Microsoft Edge’s coupon feature, which proactively suggests discounts during online shopping without users requesting it. This anticipation of needs creates memorable peak moments that strengthen emotional connections with products.

Segmenting Users by Motivators

“We can discover that users are using your product for different reasons. I mean, we tend to think that users are using the product for the same reason.” Continue reading BONUS: Nesrine Changuel shares how to create product delight through emotional connection!

Substack Week: AI in Product Management, Enhancing Product Development Through Artificial Intelligence with Toni Dos Santos

In this Substack Week episode, we explore how artificial intelligence is transforming product management with Toni Dos Santos, co-author of The Product Courier newsletter. From automating routine tasks to enhancing strategic decision-making, Toni shares practical insights on leveraging AI to build better products faster and more efficiently.

From Music to Banking to AI Product Management

“I wanted to work in that area to find ways to put innovation to service to the consumers, and making it as invisible as possible.”

Toni’s journey into AI and product management began in an unexpected place – the music industry. After working as a music producer, his interest in innovation led him to banking, where he discovered the untapped potential of data analytics. His experience working with machine learning and deep learning in banking laid the foundation for his current work with generative AI in product management. The launch of ChatGPT in 2022 sparked his deep dive into applying AI to product management challenges.

Revolutionizing User Story Creation with AI

“User stories are a big pain for many product managers, particularly junior ones… The idea is that you provide the AI with a PRD or description of the product, and it’s going to write user stories based on best practices.”

Toni explains how AI can transform the process of writing user stories by automating the initial drafting while preserving the essential collaborative aspects. He emphasizes that while AI can handle the mechanics of writing, the real value comes from using it as a springboard for deeper discussions with the team. The technology can suggest edge cases, highlight potential gaps, and provide a structured foundation for further refinement.

AI as a Tool for Understanding User Needs

“Use all the transcripts, the feedback from user interviews that I have, feed it to AI and retrieve from it the key pain points, the major patterns that it identifies.”

Continue reading Substack Week: AI in Product Management, Enhancing Product Development Through Artificial Intelligence with Toni Dos Santos

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