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Mirco Gerling: The Silence Test — How to Know Your Team Doesn’t Need You Anymore

“Don’t talk too much. And only talk if it’s necessary.” – Mirco Gerling

For Mirco, success as a Scrum Master starts with a simple rule he had to fight for: don’t try to be someone else. Early in his career, when people kept saying “Mirco, you decide, you’re the Scrum Master,” he had to do the hard work of pushing back — “no, we decide together.” That instinct shapes his whole definition of success. Be authentic. Wait before you speak. Ask before you instruct. And when a discussion stalls, sit with the silence — because in most cases, someone in the team has a better idea than you do. The cleanest test of whether a team is truly self-managing? Step back.

When Mirco took two months of parental leave, his team kept running every Scrum event without him. That’s the signal. If you stop sending the sprint review invite, stop preparing the retrospective, stop nudging — and the team picks it up because they own it — your work is showing.

Self-reflection Question: What’s one thing you currently do for your team that you suspect they would do themselves if you simply stopped doing it?

Featured Retrospective Format for the Week: 1-2-4-All from Liberating Structures

Mirco’s universal tool is Liberating Structures, and within that toolbox, 1-2-4-All is his go-to. The pitch: “involve everybody, especially in large groups. And there’s nearly no preparation needed.” His proof point — facilitating a retrospective for 60 people at the Agile by Nature bar camp in just 20 minutes. The format scales from a team of five to a room of sixty without changing its shape: one minute alone, two minutes in pairs, four minutes in small groups, then a share-back with the whole group. During a 30°C COVID summer in Hamburg, Mirco even ran retros walking outdoors with his team — station to station, down to the lake for ice cream, then back. “It was a very good and constructive retrospective.” The lesson: the right structure makes you portable.

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About Mirco Gerling

Mirco is an experienced Scrum Master in the public sector. With a strong IT background, he has spent 25 years developing software and driving agile transformations. Passionate about innovation and teamwork, Mirco brings expertise and dedication to every project.

You can link with Mirco Gerling on LinkedIn.

Renee Troughton: From Lower-Order to Higher-Order Values in Scrum

“If you, as a senior leader, demonstrate vulnerability, it creates real magic in an organization where others can open up and be their authentic self.” – Renee Troughton

Renee defines success for Scrum Masters through deeply human values: integrity, holding her truth, being compassionately authentic, caring, open, honest, listening, and vulnerable. She emphasizes that vulnerability as a senior leader creates transformative magic in organizations, allowing others to bring their authentic selves to work. Drawing on Byron Katie’s “Loving What Is” and Frederick Laloux’s “Reinventing Organizations,” Renee explains that many corporate organizations focus on lower-order values like results and performance, while more autonomous organizations prioritize higher-order values rooted in the heart. When having conversations with people, Renee connects with them as human beings first—not rushing to business if someone is struggling personally. Success means seeing people completely for who they are, not as resources to be changed or leveraged. The foundation for collaboration, empowerment, and autonomy is trust, respect, and safety. Renee emphasizes that without these fundamental values in place, everything else implodes. She demonstrates how vulnerability, active listening, and accepting people where they are creates the fertile ground for successful teams and organizations.

Self-reflection Question: Do you demonstrate vulnerability as a leader, creating space for others to bring their authentic selves to work, or do you hide behind a professional facade that prevents genuine human connection?

Featured Retrospective Format for the Week: Themed Retrospectives (Monopoly, Sports, Current Events)

“It gave a freshness to it. And it gave almost like a livelihood or a joyfulness to it as an activity as well.”

Renee recommends themed retrospectives like the Monopoly Retro or sports-themed formats that use current events or cultural references (aka metaphor retrospectives). While working at a consultancy, they would theme retrospectives every week around different topics—football, news events, or various scenarios—using collages of pictures showing different emotions (upset, angry, happy). Team members would identify with feelings and reframe their week within the theme’s context, such as “it was a rough game” or “we didn’t score enough goals.” The brilliance of this approach is covering the same retrospective questions while bringing freshness, creativity, and joyfulness to the activity. These metaphorical formats allow teams to verbalize things that aren’t easily expressible in structured formats, triggering different perspectives and creative thinking. The format stays consistent while feeling completely new, maintaining engagement while avoiding retrospective fatigue.

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About Renee Troughton

Renee is one of the most experienced Agile coaches in the Southern Hemisphere with over two decades of transformation experience across banking, insurance, pharma, and real estate. Since 2002, she’s helped organizations go digital, tackle systemic issues, and deliver value faster. Passionate about cutting bureaucracy, Renee champions a return to humanity at work.

Follow Renee’s work at AgileForest.com, her website as well as her work on the Agile Revolution podcast.

You can link with Renee Troughton on LinkedIn.

BONUS: The Power of Handwritten Letters for Leaders With Amy Daughters

In this BONUS episode, we explore the transformative power of handwritten letters with author Amy Daughters. In her book, Dear Dana, Amy shares her remarkable journey of reconnecting with hundreds of people through the lost art of letter writing and reveals how leaders can use this simple yet profound tool to build deeper connections, foster engagement, and create lasting impact in their organizations.

The Genesis of a Letter-Writing Mission

“I was minding my own business, just doing my thing, and I get on Facebook one day in 2014, very innocently, like we all do, and I had a memory of a friend that I’d worked with at a summer camp here in Texas 35 years ago.”

Amy’s journey began with a simple Facebook search for an old camp friend named Dana. After reconnecting online, Amy discovered that Dana’s young son was battling cancer. Initially just following their story from a distance, Amy felt compelled to start sending handwritten letters to Dana and her son during their hospital stays. When Dana’s son tragically passed away at age 15, Amy continued writing to Dana, sending letters to her husband’s law office despite feeling it might be irrational. Five months later, she received a ten-page handwritten response from Dana, sparking a two-year correspondence that changed both of their lives. This powerful connection ultimately inspired Amy to write letters to all 580 of her Facebook friends in a remarkable social experiment that transformed her perspective on human relationships.

The Power of Human Connection

“We were relating to each other as simple human beings. I didn’t know how she voted, she didn’t know how I voted… I didn’t know what her religious views were. I didn’t know what she thought about any kind of social issues.”

What began as a simple act of kindness evolved into a profound lesson in human connection. Amy describes how her letter-writing created a unique space where people could connect authentically without the filters and divisions of social media or modern digital communication. The letters fostered relationships based purely on shared humanity rather than political views, religious beliefs, or social stances. This experiment changed Amy herself as much as it impacted recipients, giving her a deeper appreciation for the unique individuals in her life and helping her see beyond labels to the person beneath. For leaders, this highlights how communication tools that prioritize personal connection can transcend workplace divisions and build genuine relationships.

Creating Lasting Impact with Handwritten Notes

“When someone receives a handwritten item from you, I’m going to immediately realize that you took the time and the effort. And the higher up on the food chain you are, it’s even better to do this for me.” Continue reading BONUS: The Power of Handwritten Letters for Leaders With Amy Daughters